Mature Personals

We like ourselves if others like us. We feel attractive if others cruise us or pick us up. We feel validated if someone wants to fuck us. And we feel rejected if someone breaks up with us. As Carrie would say, when it comes to life and love, why do we believe our worst reviews? Instead of believing in ourselves? Maybe it is because we ask too many questions? Or is it just my writing? I guess it is easier to ask then to answer. We use others to mirror a picture of ourselves. We use our partners to provide an image of who we are…the “I” becomes “we” and when you become and “I” again you feel a loss of identity. I am not sure where this entry is going…but I am going to leave you with some eye candy so you can review. I give it four stars. I got an email from hunky Todd Sanfield. He is currently on the cover of DNA magazine. I’m not sure if this is for real but this his six pack is! He is launching a new line of underwear…if it makes me look anything like him..I’m buying it! I will sample more of his pictures in future entries. Thanks Todd. There…another guy just got reviewed.

Older Men and Women

I had lunch with my friend Carl. He’s what you would call a serial dater. He’s actually chasing love…but he seems to never make it to first date. I can’t help but wonder why? He’s financially stable, intelligence, attractive and emotionally available…he’s a nice guy. But he says nice guys always finish last. “I’m a one date wonder,” he says as he tells me about his latest date. He met Rob a Canadian media buyer over the weekend. They had been chatting online for a few weeks and decided to meet offline for brunch in Randwick. Rob had described himself as non-scene and masculine two qualities dear to Rob’s heart. The first date went well. There was a lot of conversation..smiles..and flirting. Carl was definitely feeling good about Rob. There was two way communication and smiles all around. Carl had many dates previously and he was definitely feeling like he would have a future with Rob. They stayed and chatted for a while and went for a walk around the park. They parted way with the common “catch up soon.” Off they went.

Over 60 Dating

While waiting for my friend Ted at our usual café, I kept myself occupied by login into Grindr. What did gay guys used to do without Grindr? I always want to check who’s around…there is now no need to waste time on Grindr. The waiter asked if “I was having any luck?” I was slightly embarrassed. I was caught cruising. Clearly the waiter was gay too. He was nice, tall and blonde. He was young…but he was a waiter. Yes, I’m an educational snob. I do work in education. Actually, I sell education for a living..so I find it valuable.

Senior Mates

Ted finally arrived. He was telling me about his hot date the night before. He had met Paul online and they had a nice dinner followed by drinks. There was only one issue for Ted: Paul had only completed high school. He managed an office but he did not have a power job or a degree. I wondered if we were both educational snobs…was there an unspoken rule about educational attainment of potential partners? Must be at least University education. Or was it just the fact that both Ted and I grew up in America? Since I was young, I was told that I had to go to University. “If you do not get a University degree, you’ll end up at McDonalds,” my mother always used to say. Since first grade, you worked hard to get good grades so that you could go to a good high school and to a good University. People who did not go to University were meant to work restaurant jobs. When I graduated University with an Arts degree, I realised that University graduates were indeed working in McDonalds too. My University used to sell buttons with “I majored in liberal arts, would you like French fries with that?” So I studied some more and got myself a Master’s. In reality, I doubt this extra degree made a difference in my current career. But I do think education can lead to a better life…at least that is what I sell for a living.

Senior Singles

My Canadian affair planned his whole travel trip based on reviews from trip adviser. This is a website where people can review hotels, destinations, and cruises. We are constantly reviewing and passing judgments on restaurants, airlines and even relationships. You could live your whole life based on what others say or think....some of us doing that all the time..without even thinking. I wondered how I would review my last relationship? A waste of time? A learning experience? A happy memory. I wondered how my ex would review me? Needy? Drama queen? Loving? So much of our own self-esteem comes from others and how they review us.